What My Late ADHD Diagnosis Taught Me

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“The Tortoise and The Hare” is a classic parable I think we’ve all heard told at some point in our lives.  The race begins, and the rabbit is confident he will win the race against the slow turtle. He runs ahead and eventually decides he has time to take a quick nap. The turtle keeps on, slow but steady. Eventually, the turtle passes the rabbit and to the surprise of all, wins the race.

But is this really a surprise?

 

Back in My Day…

 

In today’s day and age, quick and convenient seem to be the way of life. So much change has happened even from when I was little. We now have phones that are essentially computers that we carry everywhere with us. I remember when I was younger that the only computer available was the clunky desktop computer, and if I wanted to use it, I would turn it on and go do something else because it would take about 10 minutes to start up!

 

A couple weeks ago, my 7-year-old daughter said to me “Mom, did you know that there used to be phones that had a curly string coming out of them?!” Imagine her surprise when I said “Yes…I used to use those phones when I was your age”.

 

I often crave this way of life…slower, more intentional, less distractions.

 

We have many distractions on our path of healing and spiritual growth. Everyday life can become a string of unconscious actions that we weave together. We’re moving so quickly through life that we can’t perceive the subtle energy shifts, the incompatibility, the discomfort.

 

When Life Forced Me to Slow Down

 

When my life slowed down earlier this year, both due to my own career change and then the loss of my husband’s job, I became acutely aware of one unconscious action in particular: eating out. I was putting my money into convenience food rather than saving the money by cooking at home. It was usually fast food, low in nutrition, and I felt that in my body after I ate it: slow and sluggish.

 

But this was just the tip of the iceberg, and I could feel a deeper wound beginning to surface. My justifications were many: I’m too tired to cook, it’s been a long week and we deserve a treat, the kids have activities and there’s no time to cook.

 

But necessity forced me to take a hard look at what lay beneath this pattern. With less income coming in, the change had to be made. But the truth is that any bad habit, when we stop without examining the root cause, can easily be replaced by another.

 

Eating out was one of the coping mechanisms I used to numb my emotions and fill an empty void within me. But where was it coming from??

 

My Late ADHD Diagnosis

 

One thing that was also going on at this time was that I was getting an ADHD evaluation for my daughter. As I was doing research, some light bulbs began to go off in my own head, and I realized that this all sounded very familiar. I was reading my own experience in the words before me.

 

In January I was diagnosed with ADHD. I am not saying this as an excuse for my behavior. What this diagnosis did was to help me understand myself more deeply. It helped me become more aware of habits that can come from ADHD, and to catch myself when I saw myself falling into them.

 

Because I was undiagnosed for so long, I had formed poor coping habits to adapt in a world that I didn’t always feel I fit into. Now that I had words for my experience, I could pause, become aware of my internal patterns, and begin forming new, healthier, and aligned habits that supported me.

 

There’s a lot of emotions that come with an ADHD diagnosis for most people I imagine. Especially when you have spent many years struggling in life and thinking something is wrong with you, wondering why you can’t just do things like other people. This was true for me as well. My late ADHD diagnosis helped me begin to recognize and process things in my life that were causing me a lot of pain and self-criticism.

 

The eating out was one of the ways I was easing the pain of feeling a bit lost in a world that I didn’t always fit into.

 

Emotional Healing and Learning to Go Within

 

It is important to honor the emotions that want to express through us. Our past holds an emotional charge, and as long as we stifle down these feelings, they will fill us up inside and allow little space for more resonant energies. We must clear the old before welcoming the new. Energetically, this is how we get locked into patterns, or eventually they reflect as health issues within our life.

 

So this is the direction I focused on for my healing. I did my best to go within…and when I had the urge to eat out, I would invite the emotion to the surface. I would call it forward, and be there for the part of me that felt isolated and left out and unsure of how I fit in society.

 

It was difficult…it was painful…it was embarrassing…it was uncomfortable…it was shameful…

 

But I was creating space within myself and carving out a new story. Because I knew that on the other side of this was greater love, acceptance, gratitude, and understanding.

 

It is now May, and I have not purchased takeout since January. To be honest, I don’t even crave it or miss it anymore. As painful as feeling our emotions can be, being caught in the repeating cycle of misaligned energy for so many years is even more painful.

 

When I would feel the pull to order takeout, this was always accompanied by a sensation of heaviness in my body, like I was being weighed down. I would feel a pulling in my chest to ease this heavy sensation. The habit would temporarily relieve the sensation, and then the cycle would begin anew. This is taxing to both body and Spirit.

 

Choosing the Tortoise Path

 

The story of the tortoise and the hare isn’t just about speed. What’s special about the turtle is that it’s ok to take your time, to take in the scenery as we go through life, because every moment of our lives is significant. Every step matters. Even the ones where we feel like we’re losing or not good enough. Life honors both equally.

 

Winning doesn’t mean finishing first. We only win or lose if we define success through comparison. It is hard changing careers mid-life, and sometimes I catch myself thinking “If only I had done this sooner.” But then again…who am I actually racing?

 

I recently went with my daughter on a field trip to the zoo, where she had done research on snapping turtles for a presentation. One of the facts she was especially excited to share was that turtles can breathe out of their butts.

 

I was genuinely surprised to learn this. It sounded so strange at first, especially since they clearly have nostrils. It made me think how life is not always what it seems on the surface, and in many ways our inner world is the same. What appears so simple from the outside often conceals deep complexities beneath.

 

For over twenty years I was locked in this pattern, trying the same fix and expecting different results, unwilling to see below the surface level. I didn’t open myself to understand what was driving it internally. The ADHD diagnosis was the catalyst for change for me, but we always have the choice. I could have easily continued to justify my behavior and used my ADHD as an excuse to continue the pattern. But I know from experience that although the pain would leave quickly, it was only temporary. That’s the hare’s path, and I knew it was time to choose the path of the tortoise.

 

The turtle directs us inward, so that step by step we may overcome any challenge in our life. Turtle also reminds us that the obvious way is not always the most efficient. Likewise, there is no such thing as being behind. Turtle reminds us that we are all exactly where we need to be in this very moment in time.

 

Within five short months this craving was completely gone from my life. When we slow down and go within rather than push through or numb the pain, we actually move through things faster. It becomes as though we have found a wormhole in the great matrix of life.

 

So I invite you to slow down, pause, and journey below the surface. Embrace your emotions and open yourself up to life’s possibilities. Trust that the universe will bring you what you need even if you can’t quite see the finish line. Because our Spirit Within is always patiently waiting for us to slow down and listen.

Much love and many blessings,

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The Hollow Bone

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What does it mean to be a hollow bone? This term is often associated with Shamanic traditions, particularly Native American teachings, and describes how a healer must refine themselves and dissolve the ego in order to become a clear channel through which Spirit can move.

 

But for me, this concept extends beyond the role of the healer. We all hold space in the world, and we all bring our own unique gifts and healing medicine, whether it be through working with people, animals, plants, technology, finance, to name a few. We also bring this through our everyday interactions with friends, loved ones, and strangers. There are endless ways that each of us serves humanity.

 

What does it truly mean to hollow oneself, and what does the journey to doing so look like in our life?

 

In today’s sharing, I want to explore my thoughts on these questions and also share why I believe the journey to becoming a hollow bone is a path for everyone, not just those in a healing role.

 

The Earth as a Mirror

 

When I tune into this question, the image of the Grand Canyon forms in my mind. Carving something out takes time. This majestic rock formation was uplifted through the shifting of the Earth and then slowly carved out by the Colorado River, revealing all the layers of accumulation built over millions of years.

 

The formation process of the Grand Canyon mirrors the same journey every soul takes. There eventually comes a day when our existence as we once knew it is disrupted and we are lifted up, this higher altitude offering a new view of our surroundings. A glitch in our everyday reality breaks the hypnotic monotony of our daily routines.

 

Maybe this arrives through an illness, a near death experience, a drastic life change, or another event that shakes us awake. The moment itself is unique for everyone, but the outcome for all is the same. The pressure of the experience lifts us up and we suddenly perceive something beyond what our logical mind can fully understand. Curiosity and intrigue arise, and we feel a stirring in our hearts. Often called spiritual awakening, this is when the search begins. The search for truth and deeper meaning in our lives… the search for self.

 

Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is the meaning of life?

 

This is often when a person begins their healing journey because the search for truth and healing is really one and the same. This is how we hollow ourselves out. We cannot get to the core of who we are without first extracting and examining what lies within. Just as the river washed away the contents of the stone to create the Grand Canyon, we too must breach the surface so that we may reveal all the layers of our own beautiful creation story.

 

Filling Up to Empty Out

 

Once we are lifted up and answer the calling of our heart, it is as though we step into the great mystery of life. We see a flicker of light in the darkness and wonder from where does this light come from? Like the river flowing through the canyon, this acceptance opens the gate for loving and supportive energies to flow through us, guiding us along our path. The journey of healing becomes a journey of revelation as we seek to fully understand and uncover the source of this current.

 

The stirring in my own heart came when I said yes to Shamanic training. I accepted my fate and dove head first into my healing path. When I first heard the term “the hollow bone”, it felt very mysterious and somewhat abstract to me.

 

The society we live in often views the mind as a higher authority than the heart. As such, we tend to seek solutions through doing, fixing, and thinking. Like many others beginning a healing path, I believed this meant filling up with knowledge and skills. I told myself that if I read enough books and learned enough techniques, I could push out old stories, heal myself, and be equipped to help others heal.

 

We must surrender to the current and allow it to carry us where it will. Every part of the process is valid and necessary to deepen our awareness and unveil the mystery in its own way, in its own time. Eventually we learn that a bone is not hollowed by displacing its interior with external matter. It must be carved out from within.

 

Seeking external knowledge, there is nothing wrong with this. It has played a vital role on my own path and I place great value on it. But we seek because we feel something is missing from our lives. What is missing is the connection with our inner light, our Spirit Within. We see this light as something outside of us, and this search for knowledge mirrors the deep wound of separation we feel within ourselves.

 

We try to hollow out the bone by displacing its interior with external matter, just as we try to heal ourselves by filling the void with knowledge and skills.

 

But the canyon was not carved by force. It was carved by surrendering to the water, allowing the river to flow along its natural path. The same is true for our healing. It is not found outside of ourselves. It is a surrendering within. To do so, we must shift from mind to heart, for this is where our inner light resides. Thus begins the next pivotal moment of our awakening process: surrendering to the flow and allowing mind, body, and heart to connect as one.

 

Emptying Out to Fill Up

 

One of the very first books I read on my own healing path was How to Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. I read the book eagerly, taking in every word. For those of you unfamiliar, her teachings are all about cultivating self-love. A little over three years later, I found myself feeling called to this book once again, and I was curious why. This work was already “done”, so why would I need to revisit this?

 

Before I share the answer, I want to take a moment to talk about pain. We all carry pain. These are our own unique past wounds and traumas. As humans, we are hardwired to avoid pain. Most people would not willingly stick their hand in a fire and hold it there. Our painful parts are like fire, and when we begin to get close to them, we do all sorts of things to avoid them: distraction, denial, projecting our pain onto others, and even self-sabotage.

 

But the reality is that we must pass through each fire, each wound, each emotion, one by one. We do this by coming face to face with what hurts and bearing witness to all of the layers of pain we carry within us. We allow them to course through our body like a river carving through rock, slowly softening the hardened edges of our being. As we empty out, we create space, allowing our inner light to fill up and take its place.

 

This is the true hollowing of the bone.

 

I soon realized why I was being called to revisit this book. There was a lot of pain in my own childhood, many ways in which I felt unloved and neglected. I could now clearly see how I had been running from the fire. I had checked self-love off as “done” and never looked back. Outwardly, I was loving myself by aligning external aspects of my life with my dreams and goals. But inwardly… I had been neglecting this. There was a disconnect between my outer world and my inner world.

 

This moment called me to come face to face with my inner pain and acknowledge the ways I had been neglecting myself through my words, thoughts, and feelings. I speak more about moving through this in my last blog, and I invite you to read about it HERE.

 

We must feel to heal, and to do this, we must venture within. We must move toward the fire, not away from it. I think this is often why some on a healing path, myself included, can work so hard on healing, change so much in their outer life, yet still feel stuck or unfulfilled.

 

Embrace The Space

 

During my training, I was always told that the healer does not do the healing. We hold space for the client to release. At the time, I did not fully understand what this meant, but now, at my current level of awareness, I see it more clearly.

 

So often the world is filled with chaos, judgment, loneliness, fear, grief, shame, embarrassment, and so much more. It is a kaleidoscope of heavy emotions, and although they can be painful, emotions are also the language of the soul. This is often why clients seek healing. Their soul is crying out, and they are unsure how to move through or even sometimes name what they are feeling.

 

In our current times, we are rarely taught how to turn inward and connect with ourselves as many ancient cultures once did. And so, as healers, we serve as a bridge and a guide, helping others move through this moment in their healing journey while offering tools to support them as they continue forward. But we cannot truly hold space for others if we have not first created space within ourselves.

 

The space we create within ourselves serves two purposes. Firstly, these heavy emotions the client carries need a safe place to land. If we are filled up with our own pain, where will they have room to rest their troubles? We do not take on this energy. Rather, we serve as a bridge between the client and Spirit, with the assistance of our Spirit Guides, helping to filter out what they are ready to release. If a vacuum cleaner is full, it cannot properly clean the carpet.

 

Secondly, with space comes greater clarity and connection to our inner wisdom. When we turn our back on our own pain, we muddy the waters. The guidance that comes through, though well-intentioned, must first pass through a debris field of sorts before being shared with the client. As a result, the message may not reach the client in its original form.

 

To dedicate oneself to becoming a hollow bone is a commitment first and foremost to self. Whether you are a healer or not, you take up space in this world, and there are others waiting for the light you carry to enter their lives and change the course of theirs.

 

It is my belief that we are never truly “done” with our healing. If we are alive here on Earth, there is always more work to be done. When we say we are done, we stifle our own light. How can we possibly place limits on something as infinite as a Soul?

 

We must not fear the fire. We must allow our feelings, no matter how painful, to pass through and carve out our bone, much like the rivers of old carving the Grand Canyon. As we do this, we become better at speaking without projecting, listening without judgment, and viewing fellow travelers with compassion and understanding.

 

To love humanity, we must love all parts of humanity. To love all parts of humanity, we must love all parts of ourselves.

 

So keep healing and keep going within. Because we can always love more deeply and open our hearts more fully. Perhaps one day your unique spark will be the very light someone sees to lift them out of the darkness.

 

Blessings on your path,

 

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How I’m Overcoming Fear and Imposter Syndrome as a Shamanic Healer

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Why am I scared to talk about my work as a Shamanic Healer???

This is a question I struggled with for quite a while, and it was a big reason I delayed starting my business. The truth is, I carried a deep, lingering fear of being the odd kid in town. It’s hard for me to pinpoint exactly when this need to fit in originated, because honestly, it feels like it’s always been there. I remember, even as a young child, cleaning my room without being asked just to gain the approval of the adults around me. In early grade school, I wanted so badly to join the other kids playing make-believe, but instead, I stayed on the swing with another girl because she thought pretending was “dumb,” and I didn’t want her to think the same of me.

For many years, this became my pattern: closing off my heart’s calling so I could blend in. But when we stifle our heart’s calling, we also suppress our inner light.

Where did our light go?

There’s a type of healing in Shamanic practice called Soul Retrieval. In both small moments and big traumatic ones, pieces of our light, our Spirit, can break away and stay safely hidden until we are ready to call them back home within us. This is called soul loss, and it happens when an experience feels too overwhelming to hold, so a part of us steps aside for safety.

A Soul Retrieval is the Shamanic technique used to call these pieces back, but this only happens when the receiver is truly ready. You wouldn’t call back a soul piece before it’s time, just like you wouldn’t plant a seed in soil that hasn’t been tended to first. The ground needs to be properly prepared, weeds removed, compost added, and the season must be right, or the seed won’t take root. In the same way, our Spirit needs care and support in order for that part of us to return and stay.

But who would go watch a movie or read a book with an uneventful plot? Every story needs a beginning, a middle, and an end, and every hero faces challenges that lead to growth. Your life is that story, and you are the hero of your own unique, sacred journey. The moments of soul loss you’ve experienced are part of your plot, written perfectly for your Spirit’s growth, and each step on your healing path helps you face these challenges and reclaim your inner light.

To me, living a life here on Earth is a funny thing. Many people in the spiritual community agree that we come here with a plan and a purpose, but we also agree to forget about that plan and purpose so that we can find our way back to it. I have a very clear memory from when I was in kindergarten, walking alone down the hall to the bathroom. I remember a moment while I was sitting on the toilet and suddenly thinking, What am I doing here? Not in the sense of what am I doing sitting on this toilet, but in my life. How did I get here, and what’s my purpose of being here? Needless to say, I did not get an answer at that moment. The time was not right, and I was not ready to fulfill my destiny at the ripe old age of five.

Stepping onto a Shamanic path was the part in my own story where I began to call back my light. It marked the start of a deep healing process, and little by little, I began to retrieve the parts of my soul that had flown away. All of those times I dimmed my light around others were the very pieces I started to reclaim. This did not happen for me until later in my life, in my late 30’s. There’s a part of me that wishes I could go back and shake my younger self and tell her “Get yourself together!” But in my heart, I know that the soil was not prepped and ready yet.

The Fear that Steers Us

This now brings me to the very title of this blog post: Why am I scared to talk about my work as a Shamanic Healer? It turns out, I am probably not alone in this. This is something that many other healers, spiritual entrepreneurs, and creatives experience, especially when in the realm of things that one can’t tangibly see or hold with their hands.

This fear is often called imposter syndrome. It is the voice inside your head telling you that you’re not good enough, not qualified enough, making you wonder who in the world would even seek out your services. This is a heavy burden to bear, and the fear causes us to close off our hearts. Fear is an emotion, and emotions are here for a reason. They always guide us to the places calling for our healing. We have two choices: do we stifle, ignore, or suppress them? Or do we embrace the fear and move forward on the path together?

As I began speaking up about this new path I was walking, all of this fear came knocking on my door to remind me that it was still there, waiting for me to face it. Me…I chose the avoidance option at first!

When people asked about my Shamanic healing, I could instantly feel my stomach clench, my heart rate increase, my breath grow shallow, and heat rise to my head. My first reaction was avoidance. I would breeze past the topic, change the conversation, or suddenly find something I just had to do right that second so I could retreat without fully feeling what was coming up. Classic avoidance.

Conversations would usually go a little something like this:

Other: “What kind of business are you starting?”

Me: “I’m a Shamanic Healer. I provide energy healing and intuitive guidance to help support people with their healing and spiritual growth.”

Other: “How do you do that?”

Me: “Well, I work with Spirit Guides from the non-physical realm and bridge through energetic healing.”

Other: “Interesting…”

In other words, invisible work with invisible helpers from non-physical reality. Sounds a little crazy, right?

Avoidance has its limits, and I eventually began to realize that this was certainly no way to live. I would never meet my goal of changing my career and life direction if I kept up with the same avoidance tactic. Fear was simply trying to get my attention, and I was ignoring it over and over again. When we don’t face our emotions, we dishonor them, and we miss the sacred guidance and message they offer. And how could I dishonor something I truly love and believe in by continuing to avoid it? The truth is, it wasn’t really about what I was doing. It was about me, and the internal fears I still hadn’t faced.

Selling the Invisible

Not long ago, I went to dinner with a friend who asked me to explain my work, what it is that I do, and how I knew I was meant to do this. We talked about my path, the intuitive nudges along the way, the healing I had done, and the ways I now support others through their own transformation.

At one point in the conversation, she remarked how it all seemed very abstract and so different from selling something physical, like an item you can hold in your hand or see with your eyes. What’s funny is, this was something I had often said to my husband. Life would be easier if I was just selling ice cream! You know what you’re buying, you can experience it in the moment, and most people are familiar with the product.

So why would my path lead me here, to a place where I’m offering something that can’t be packaged, displayed, or even easily explained? Something seemingly invisible at first glance?

Life is fleeting. And the deeper truth is that we take nothing with us when we pass on. None of our belongings, none of the plants or animals around us, not even the food. What remains and carries with us when we leave this Earth is our Spirit. So in reality, the service I offer is the most real and tangible of all. Our Spirit is eternal, so tending to our soul’s evolution and truly remembering our own light becomes the most sacred, long-lasting gift we can give ourselves. Every piece of our light we call back, every moment of soul retrieval, brings us closer to that remembrance.

The work I do might be invisible to the eye, but not to the Spirit. When a piece of our soul returns, it may not be something we can hold in our hands like ice cream, but we feel it deeply, and it changes us in ways that can be hard to describe with words. Over time, the effects of that inner change begin to show outwardly. Life starts to feel different, and we start to feel different as we move through our day to day. We begin to navigate life with more clarity, ease, and naturalness.

The work I do brings people back to themselves, to their own light, to the parts they thought were lost or broken or forgotten. And that is more real than anything I could ever sell on a shelf.

Walking With Fear on Our Hero’s Journey

I didn’t get over my fear of talking about my work overnight. In fact, there are still moments in conversation where I feel the fear rising again. I’m still playing out my own hero’s journey, and I imagine likewise you are too.

But we don’t get to fast-forward to the final chapter. Moving through fear is the sacred middle part of the story, where the burden can feel immense, and our healing and growth can be challenging and uncomfortable at times. Yet as we move forward, despite the fear, we begin to gain a clearer view of the land ahead. This is the next part of our journey, where we walk through life with greater ease and begin to serve others with our healing gifts. Change happens within us first, and from there it emanates outward through the gifts we offer in service to the world. This is also the true meaning of stepping into our purpose: reclaiming our light, finding our voice, and remembering our Spirit Within.

Remember, all great stories have a beginning, a middle, and an end. The story that is you is a truly unique and special one. Never before has there been someone exactly like you, and there never will be again. While we may have the same fear or the same struggle, how you move through them will guide others in ways only you can.

So let’s walk hand in hand with fear, not as a foe, but as a friend on the path to remembering our Spirit Within. May we all find the courage to share our light with the world.

 

Blessings on your journey,

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The Wisdom of Fly Spirit

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Many times, I find myself as a “get stuff done” kind of person. My natural urge to get things done now, not later, combined with my years as a nurse, often causes me to slip into impatient habits.  I have found myself reflecting lately: How do we know when to flow with the universe and when to push through discomfort?  

Wisdom from Spirit often comes through in unexpected ways, and this was the case for me one Saturday morning. I was waiting in a parking lot for my son to finish a Boy Scout gathering.  It was a beautiful day, which was a nice treat after the cold winter. I decided to open the car windows to enjoy the fresh air.  As a breeze brushed against my face, a fly zoomed in and immediately went straight for the car’s windshield.  

The fly began buzzing frantically, clearly unable to understand why it couldn’t continue its initial flight path to the open air beyond.  It was as if an invisible block was preventing it from seeing what it was up against!  I tried to gently guide the fly towards the open window, but no matter which way I led it, it kept returning to the windshield. Several times it even flew right past the open window, not realizing that its freedom lay just beyond!  Eventually, the fly ended up in a crevice at the base of the windshield.  

It was at this point that I decided to stop trying.  I rolled up the windows and decided to sit back and take in the scenery for a bit.  Not long after, I heard the buzzing again.  The fly had found its way out of hiding and landed on the window next to me.  Carefully, I lowered the window and out it flew, just as easily as it had arrived!

Sometimes we get caught in moments of stress, and just as I did with the fly, we throw this and that at it, hoping for a quick fix solution.  It’s often our natural instinct to try and make things right and restore balance in our lives.  This reactive response can be amplified by a history of trauma, leaving us reacting from a state of fight, flight, or freeze.  But when we are in this stress response, like the fly staring through the windshield and not realizing it’s actually inside a car and not outdoors anymore, we can fixate too closely on our external problems and forget the bigger picture.  

There are certainly times when we clearly do want to push forward despite seeming obstacles.  For example, have you ever had a work or school deadline looming ahead and procrastination is getting the better of you?  It’s probably not the best approach to sit around and expect the Universe to place the completed work in your lap, all finished and ready to go!

Life is not a one-size-fits-all experience, and what feels right for one person may not feel right for another.  Our actions and emotions are often shaped through the lens of past experience, many of which trace as far back as childhood.  So, what lies at the heart of this matter? In my own experience, learning when to take action and when to wait has meant getting in touch with my inner emotions.  

Emotions are signals for us that there is something within calling for our attention.  In moments of rising emotion, like when I was impatiently swatting at the fly in my car, it’s important to ask ourselves: What emotion am I feeling?  What sensations am I feeling in my body?  Is there a message or memory that this feeling is trying to communicate?

As we bring our awareness within, we build a bridge between our external experiences and our internal environment.  This bridge creates a more harmonious flow of energy, allowing healing to take place and your intuition to bloom.  Like a fly buzzing around your personal space, will you brush away what is calling for your attention from within, or will you take these moments as opportunities, and with patience and perseverance, bridge that connection to your inner wisdom?

To me, it is no coincidence that it was a fly that came as a messenger to impart this wisdom.  For a fly has such a short but mighty life, and no opportunity is wasted! And where others might see trash, the fly sees treasure!  Impatience, fear, sadness, anger…what do you see when you experience these heavy emotions?  Do you view them as something to be discarded or tucked away from view, or as gems waiting to be dusted off, observed, and honored, revealing the gifts that lay waiting in the shadows?

Building emotional awareness is one of my great passions, but that wasn’t always the case!  I was raised in an environment where feelings weren’t shared or expressed, and it took me a while to even open up to acknowledging their presence, let alone sharing them with others.  If this has been your experience too, having a trusted therapist can be a powerful first step in healing those childhood wounds.  

Society often encourages us to focus on the positive and let go of the negative.  However, love, joy, fear, sadness…all emotions…hold equal value in our lives.  If you find yourself stuck in reactivity or closing off your emotions, there are gentle steps you can take to begin shifting that pattern.  

If this story and reflection resonate with you, and you feel called to explore your own emotional awareness more deeply, I invite you to watch this video that I shared on my TikTok page. In it, I walk through a simple yet powerful practice that I personally use when heavy emotions come up in my life. 

Remember, building emotional awareness takes time.  Be patient with yourself.  Trust that your Spirit Within will guide you in the right direction for your own healing and growth.  

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